Your attitude towards your parents is your most authentic character.

I don't know if you have noticed that parents become slower and slower as they get older.

they no longer do things quickly, they start to be careful when they go out, they can't use more and more smart products, and they make more and more low-level mistakes.

is followed by the children's dislike, perfunctory, and even merciless accusations and abuse.

think about it, who will not make mistakes in this life? Who doesn't get old?

the attitude towards parents is the most real character of a person.

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he kicked hard, growling and kicking at the woman angrily.

finally, a bicycle was pushed over and crushed on the woman.

but the woman did not fight back, huddled in the corner, leaving the boy to vent his anger.

it turns out that this is a mother and son from Guangdong.

the boy is a middle school student and the girl is his mother.

because she is suffering from mental illness, the mother is always worried that her son is not safe outside, so she secretly follows her son and wants to "protect" him.

but the result of such efforts is the dislike of his son, who feels that it is a shame to have such a mother and often beats and abuse his mother.

this time, because he failed to ask his mother for some pocket money, he simply vented all his past anger and grievances.

so there is a scene in the video.

you don't have to think about how much the mother has suffered and how aggrieved she has suffered in the past few years with her son.

but someone asked her: do you blame her son?

the mother replied: I don't blame him. Because I'm his mother.

the sentence "I am his mother" makes people feel sore.

how many parents in this world have been bound by the term "father" and "mother" all their lives since they had children.

give birth to a child in October and raise him hard just for his safety and health.

work hard outside all his life to earn money to support his family, just to give him a better life.

but in the end, it is not the child's understanding, but dislike. I think no matter who it is, it is impossible to accept such a result.

Liu Shengdong has a passage in his sacrifice to his mother:

No matter how much the mother gives to her child, she always feels that she still has a lot to owe. Children give very little to their mother, and they all say that they are filial piety.

Chinese parents spend their whole life planning for their children and try their best to save their best for their children.

then if children fail to serve their parents well, they should at least forgive their hard work and patiently respond to their concerns.

when you want to lose your temper, think about the hardship of your mother's pregnancy in October and how difficult it is for your father to earn money to support his family.

A little more patience and less blame can warm their hearts and calm their tiredness.

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parents can only accompany us for one journey in life

I have heard a saying: parents are there, there is still a way for life, parents go, life is only the way home.

I didn't understand this sentence when I was young, and I didn't understand the meaning of the sentence until I really grew up.

I saw a video two days ago.

in the video, an old lady is sitting alone at the door, quietly wiping away her tears.

the family members said that the old lady had passed away and left very suddenly. By the time the family received the phone call and hurried home, they were already dead.

they are devastated because the old people are only in their sixties and they always think that they still have a long time to spend with them.

after being devastated, the families plucked up the courage to open the video to see the old lady's final surveillance footage.

it turned out that the old man was sitting at the door early that morning. She should have been unwell, bent her back and quietly wiped away her tears.

after 12:00, she entered the house, got on the Kang, and never got up again.

but even though she is not feeling well to this extent, she still does not call her children outside to call them back, because she does not want to disturb the children who are out there.

it was not until the neighbor came to visit that he realized that the old man's time was coming.

the family cried and said: usually there are people in the house, but there is no one on that day.

regret: if I had known what I said that day, I wouldn't have gone out.

but things are changeable, who would have thought that leaving home once and for all has become a farewell.

at this point, I think of Ji Xianlin.

when he was young, in order to pursue higher career achievements, he worked hard outside until he got the news that his mother was critically ill.

Unfortunately, it's too late.

Ji Xianlin reads the two words left by his mother once and hurts once.

if I knew you were out, I wouldn't come back. I really regret letting you go out.

I've been thinking about you day and night these years. You can't imagine the pain.

he began to regret leaving his mother.

but it's too late.

when we were young, we always thought that we would wait until the day when we could make a difference, and then serve our parents well, but as we grew older, our parents grew older, and no one could tell which would come first, tomorrow or accident.

maybe one morning, maybe one afternoon, the person you love most has been separated by yin and yang ever since.

so, while you can still fulfill your filial piety, while the time is still good, make a few more calls and give more company to your parents.

Don't let your love for your parents become a lifelong debt.

Don't let your children want to support and not wait for them to be close, which has become a lifelong regret.

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reconciling with our parents is the lesson of our life

I have heard a story, which is deeply gripping to my heart.

said that an old man went to the store to repair his mobile phone. The repairman checked it for a long time, but did not find anything wrong.

so he said to the old man, "your phone is not broken."

unexpectedly, the old man cried as soon as he heard this: my mobile phone is not broken, why can't I get a call from my child?

the maintenance staff was speechless for a moment, and I had mixed feelings when I heard this story.

over the years, we have been talking about filial piety and saying that we should be kind to our parents.

but too often, filial piety ends in words. In the process of getting along, some people criticize and abuse their parents, and some complain to their parents.

some people leave home in anger and don't want to see their parents for a long time.

there are many people who stay away from their parents in the event of an accident.

remember reading a hot post: should you sever your relationship if you are dragged down by your parents?

the questioner is a young man who has to give his parents some money for retirement every month because his parents are in poor health and have no savings.

in line with the principle of tilting resources towards himself and future generations, he wants to give up his parents and make a clean break with them.

in this way, resources are not wasted on them.

as soon as this remark came out, there was a lot of criticism in the comment area, and some people said, "think for yourself: if you are looking for someone who wants to abandon his parents for the so-called better life, do you dare to live with him for the rest of his life?"

if something really goes wrong in life, what else can't be done by a person who can abandon his parents?

there is a scene in "Little willing".

Xia Junshan took his son back to his mother's house for the Spring Festival. He and his mother had a bad relationship all the year round, and their relationship was cold.

when they quarreled over their children's problems, Xia Junshan could not control his emotion and shouted to his mother:

what should it be like to be a parent?

ever since childhood, you have always denied me and blamed me. When something happened, you and Dad also blamed each other and shirked each other's responsibilities. Are you a good example?

Mother froze, her eyes mixed with confusion and amazement.

she then replied to Xia Junshan: you are right, you grew up violently drinking the northwest wind, and you and your wife had better not quarrel for the rest of your life, otherwise your children will only bear grudges and no gratitude!

in a word, it is not only the difficulty of raising a child, but also the voice of my heart over the years.

it is undeniable that there must be dereliction of duty parents in the world, parents who make mistakes, and parents who have taken it out on their children.

but look back and think about who has no ups and downs in life, whose emotions do not have ups and downs, and who can be a person who will never make mistakes.

if a man is not a saint, who can make mistakes?

this is the first time for us to be children, and isn't it the first time for parents to be parents?

most parents, they have given everything they have to help us, and they have tried their best to create better conditions for us.

even after they have given you everything, they will apologize to you with regret: sorry, Mom and Dad didn't give you anything better.

as for us, when we were young, we never went hungry, we were not displaced, we seldom looked at people, and we were all sheltered by our parents.

We stepped on our parents' shoulders to get to where we are today.

if you can, try to eliminate those mistakes, be more patient with them, and complain less.

the grace of giving birth is the greatest kindness in the world.

reconciling with parents is a lifelong practice for a person's children.

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your attitude towards your parents is an example to your children

. What you do to your parents will affect not only your relationship with your parents in this life, but also your child's relationship with you in the future.

your attitude towards your parents is how your children treat you in the future.

my friend Xiaolin once told me a story:

said that when her child was three years old, she took the child back to her mother's house for a few days, perhaps because she relaxed in her mother's house.

when there is no water in the cup, she will shout "Dad, get me some water".

there is no fruit on the table. She will act coquettish at her mother, "Mom, cut some more fruit."

after staying for only two days, she found that her son had changed, and now she was either asking her grandparents to do what she could do by herself, or waiting for her parents to do it.

once she couldn't help getting angry at her mother and complained. The child learned it in a few minutes and yelled at her when she went to sleep at night.

then she suddenly realized that she was a mirror of the child, and her behavior would be reflected on the child.

years later, when we become parents, our children become us.

your attitude towards your parents is what you write about your child's attitude towards you.

so don't underestimate it.

if you can, try to achieve these "three noes", which can improve your relationship with your parents as well as your family style.

Don't let your parents live alone. Spend more time with your neighbor, Grandma Zhang, whose children work outside and come back to see her once a month.

so Grandma Zhang always makes a mark on the calendar when her son comes back.

she counted: this month is over in three days, son.It's time to come back.

she calculated: sun Tzu likes Sweet and Sour Spare Ribs best, and which butcher shop has the freshest ribs.

every time I look at her leaning eagerly against the door frame, I feel unspeakable pain.

as parents, they have worked hard all their lives for the health of their children, and all they want is for their children to come and see more when they are old.

if time permits, go home and see your parents more often. If time is limited, make a phone call, dial a video, and get in touch with your parents.

Don't let their desire become a kind of disappointment, don't let their hard waiting become an extravagant request.

Don't give them bad temper, be more patient

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