Turn if you can't get through, and put it down if you can't figure it out.

there is a brain teaser that goes like this:

A person wants to enter a room, but the door can't be pushed open. Why?

someone said, "it's locked inside."

someone else said, "the door lock is broken and stuck."

others say, "this man is too weak."

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however, the answers given are all wrong.

the correct answer is: the door is opened, not pushed.

it seems difficult, but it's just a different way of looking at things.

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this is also like our life. If we look at it from another point of view, it will be different.

01

when you can't pass by, you might as well turn a corner

I heard that there is a kind of fish called Magna Fish in the deep sea.

the fishermen caught it in a very simple way: use only a net with a very rough hole, tied with iron, dragged by small boats on both sides, and put into the water. The holes of the

net are very large and open on three sides, but batch after batch of Magar fish have been successfully caught.

Why on earth is this?

it turns out that this kind of fish has a characteristic, that is, once it finds the right direction, it will never move forward, never knowing the turning and turning back, and the more it is blocked, the more it rushes forward, so batch after batch of Maga fish are stuck one after another by the mesh.

Lin Yutang said, "it is better to give up wisely than to cling blindly."

for Magayu, the result of obsession is that the fish is dead.

for people, if you are obsessed with what is right, it is called having a beginning and ending; if you are obsessed with being wrong, it is called unrepentant.

there are thousands of ways in life. When we start our journey, we don't know which one is the most correct. We can only take one step at a time, and then go on with what is right and correct what is wrong. This is the right choice.

in fact, life is a process of choice and trial and error.

Russian athlete Isinbayeva, known as the "queen of pole vaulting", experienced a major life choice.

at first she was a gymnast, and her dream was to become a gymnastics champion, and she has been working hard for it.

but with age, the situation has changed.

her stature is getting taller and taller, even reaching more than 1.7 meters, which greatly exceeds the standard of gymnasts, which is very disadvantageous to her movements, and it becomes very difficult to realize her dream.

after a series of ideological struggles, she decided to give up gymnastics, which she had practiced for ten years, and practice pole vaulting instead.

it was this change that made Isinbayeva become the later pole vaulting queen.

Life is like this. There are always many hurdles on the road of growth. Only when you know how to make a detour can you go a long way.

like rivers, when you move forward, you must not only advance bravely by rapids, but also avoid obstacles and sand before they can flow into the sea.

know how to be flexible, life will be twists and turns, ushered in dark willows and bright flowers.

02

when you can't figure it out, you might as well put it down

and see such a story:

A woman named du Xueqi, four members of her family are suffering from cancer. His lover and old father died of cancer. Then both she and her mother were diagnosed with stomach cancer.

she can't figure it out: how can my wife get liver and lung cancer if he doesn't smoke or drink?

as for herself, she pays great attention to eating. She never uses the wax in the disposable cup when she heard that the wax in the disposable cup is bad for people's health. Drinking water is also very fastidious, drinking is mineral water, but how also got cancer?

later, she simply did not want to. Anyway, the length of life is not up to her own decision. She is left to fate.

so she took her mother in her eighties to travel, visited many countries, gained a lot of knowledge, and naturally broadened her mind.

when I came back, I checked my body and found that my cancer cells had shrunk to nearly disappear.

she finally realized that the most important thing in a person's life is to be happy, and everything else is a cloud.

some people say: "there is no despair in life, only incomprehension, there is no end of life, only can not see through."

people will naturally encounter a lot of difficult things in this life, and if you can't get over it, just let it go.

with regard to this, Heng Zi, the author of "the World is worth it," is even more clear: there is no need to think too much, people just have to think about what happened today.

for her, her husband is an alcoholic, her children are weak and sick, and there are many things that bother her. But even so, she still eats when she should, sleeps when she sleeps, and never let the life in front of her be a mess.

when you can't figure it out, put it down first. If you think too much, you might as well go back to the present and do what you should do most.

the Buddha said, "once you put down your thoughts, you will feel at ease."

there is no big deal about things in the world, and there is nothing that cannot be put down.

03

the rest of life is not long, learn to stop loss

people go the wrong way, can change course, can not think about things, can not think about it, then choose the wrong person?

A few days ago, I saw a piece of news that a newlywed couple in Kuwait ended their marriage only three minutes after their marriage, setting a world record for the shortest marriage in history.

the couple just signed the marriage agreement in front of the judge when the bride accidentally tripped when she was about to walk out of the courthouse.

when the bridegroom saw this, instead of helping the bride up, he laughed at her, saying she was "so stupid".

the bride turned around without saying a wordThe judge was asked to dissolve their marriage on the spot.

it was only three minutes after they signed the marriage agreement.

some people laugh, isn't this a waste of your Honor's precious time?

this matter may not seem like a big deal to others, but from the bride's point of view, it may not be a correct and sober decision.

as netizens commented: a marriage that doesn't respect each other is a failure from the beginning.

how many people, because a wrong person wasted most of his life or even his whole life.

and how many people, in the bottomless pit of "tolerance", are slowly swallowed up and feel remorse.

forget about a door that you can't open, leave if you can't make you laugh, and give up a relationship that consumes you.

Yi Zhongtian said: "if life is in the wrong direction, stopping is progress."

the rest of your life is not long. Learn to love yourself and don't spend your time and energy on people and things that are not worth it.

stop the loss in time, you will have the possibility of turning the market again, which is not only a kind of self-redemption, but also a kind of great wisdom in life.

04

the rest of my life is very expensive. Chen Guo, a professor at Fudan University, said in "good Solitude": "from another point of view, it is to live in a different way."

people, don't embarrass yourself.

as the book "break up" says:

in fact, happiness and pain are often between thoughts. In this world, there is no impossible road, only people who can't figure it out.

people live a lifetime, everything is fixed, so there is no need to have a hard time with yourself.

Life is about coaxing yourself, persuading yourself to understand, and solving everything.

the rest of your life is very expensive. Please let yourself go and let everything go.