To parents: to educate good children is to invest in the rest of your life (please read it patiently)

/October 2022

an old teacher who has been teaching for more than 30 years said: to educate good children is to invest in the rest of your life!

the greatest wish of a parent is to look forward to the success of his son and daughter.

parents will be happy as long as their children grow up healthily and have a bright future.

but to expect children to be successful is not to say that they want to be successful in words and hearts, but to reflect them in long-term actions.

every successful child can find excellent factors in his parents.

in a family, parents are the most primitive teachers of their children, and their words and deeds are bound to be reflected in their children.

so if you want to educate your children well, parents must first understand these four things!


parents are the first teachers of their children

parents are always more influential than teachers

now, many parents are busy with their work, leaving their children's education to their teachers, and then they don't care.

the quality of children is the teacher's fault. In fact, parents are wrong about this idea.

Sukhomlinski, a former Soviet educator, once said: without the high educational literacy of the whole society, first of all, the family, then no matter how hard teachers make, they will not achieve perfect results.

all the problems in the school will be reflected in the family, and the root causes of all the difficulties in the complicated teaching process of the school can be traced back to the family.

No matter whether the school is good or bad, no matter how good the teachers are, they can't take the place of their parents.

parents are the best teachers for their children, and their every move is affecting their children's growth.

although children spend most of their day at school, no matter how responsible the teacher is, they can't do the following:

teachers can't give children good habits

Children's good habits are mostly demonstrated and guided by their parents.

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if you want your child to have a good habit, then the parents must have good habits themselves, so that they can affect their children.

the teacher can't give the child an interest in reading

whether the child likes reading or not is directly related to the performance of the parents.

if there are many books at home, and parents often hold a book to read, then children will fall in love with reading under imperceptible influence.

Teachers cannot guarantee children's good upbringing

British educational thinker Thomas Arnold said: "parents' words and deeds are silent teachers and examples of their children consciously or unconsciously. They play a powerful and imperceptible role."

Children are just a mirror of parents, and all the behaviors that you think are "uneducated" and make you furious are actually copies and pastes of parents' behavior.

Please parents understand that teachers teach their children more textbook knowledge, and good habits and upbringing depend on their parents.


parents' love and harmony

is the best tutor for their children

Chinese educator Tao Xingzhi once said: "without love, there is no education."

any education requires emotional input, and family education is no exception.

only loving families can form a warm and harmonious family environment, and children living in this family environment can have a sound personality and a positive and optimistic attitude towards life.

if a family wants to form a loving family environment, the most important thing is the harmony of parents' love.

parents' love and harmony is the best tutor for their children.

Zhihu once had a question and answer: what is the feeling of a child whose parents have a bad relationship?

someone replied, "I dare not go to the bathroom for fear that they will fight while I am in the shower. I have no time to get dressed, and I am afraid I will not have time to pull them away."

parents have bad feelings, which will cause childhood trauma to their children.

Don't think that quarreling among adults has nothing to do with children. In fact, the last thing children want to see is that the two people they love most hurt each other.

for children, the greatest misfortune of a family is that parents hurt each other.

Children who grow up in such a family environment will be extremely short of sense of security, so it is difficult to obtain long-term happiness.

Children can feel love only in a family environment where their parents are loving and harmonious.

and the words and deeds that parents love will also exert a subtle influence on their children and make them brave and optimistic.

in the variety show "Mom is Superman", the impressive scene is that du Jiang came home from work, and the first thing he did was hug Huo Siyan.

while ahem was sleeping, Huo Siyan let him sleep first. She wanted to help du Jiang pack her bags.

mm-hmm. Lying on the bed, listening to Mom and Dad's voice outside the door, he said, "this is for the whole family to be together."

the happiest thing for children is that their parents are by their side.

Children have parents in their hearts, and parents have each other in their hearts!

psychologist Zeng Qifeng said: "the relationship between husband and wife is the Poseidon needle of the family." Children who grow up in families where their parents love each other are more filled with sense of security. He knows that his mother loves his father, and his father also loves his mother, and they all love themselves at the same time. He doesn't have to worry about adult things, because his parents can rely on each other. He just needs to be a happy child. "

parents' love is the best way to teach by deeds and deeds, and is the greatest protection for children.


the better you become

the better your child will become

many parents end their schooling, have a job, have a family, have a child, achieve a superficial satisfaction, and give up on themselves.Grow up.

Life follows the principle of comfort, regards the child as his whole, and revolves all his life around the child, but he feels more and more anxious.

do not know that it is the responsibility of parents not only to give their children food, clothing and care, but also to be a role model for their children to guide them forward and grow up with them.

Children are the mirrors of their parents, and parents are their role models.

parents want their children to get better and better, so parents must become better in the first place.

all hopes for children should be derived from their own changes.

there is a good saying: the best parent-child relationship is not the self-sacrifice that parents seem to be great, nor do they let their children start on their own, but that you make progress together and grow up with each other.

the king of educating children is to cultivate themselves persistently.

what children understand, parents understand; what children do not understand, parents also understand. At least, parents should have an intersection with their children.

in the CCTV "face-to-face" interview column, Dong Qing talked about her experience as a new mother.

Dong Qing said that after the baby was born, she felt as if the focus of her life had changed all of a sudden, and no matter what she did, she had to consider the child first.

her life revolves around her children, and her days become trivial and mediocre.

at this time, she began to be confused: whether to concentrate on raising children or continue to pursue self-growth?

Dong Qing's friend said to her, "if you want your child to be what kind of person, the easiest way is what you become first."

after hearing this, Dong Qing gave up being a stay-at-home mother and continued to pursue opportunities for self-growth.

from host to producer, from "Reader" to "Poetry Conference", challenge yourself all the way.

the child is no longer a hindrance to her growth, but a new motivation.

Dong Qing said: "I don't want to give up the possibility of self-growth. I can't stop myself just because I have a baby."

"I will try to make myself better, so that when my child grows up and when he really understands, he will have love and respect for me."

only when you grow up good enough, will your child stand on your shoulders and pattern and reach a better level.

the fate of children often depends on their parents' education, and it is their parents' skills to let children win at the starting line.

therefore, if parents want their children to become better, they have to work hard with their children, study together and grow up together.

only when you become better can you inspire children to become better.


parents support teachers

is to support their children's growth

there is a good saying: education is bi-directional and requires the cooperation of teachers and parents.

educating a child is definitely not just a family matter or a school thing, but requires more cooperation between parents and teachers.

for parents, they just want their children to grow up healthily and have a bright future.

for teachers, preaching, teaching and solving doubts is the teacher's basic duty, so they have high standards and high requirements for students, and want to guide students to develop in a better direction.

although parents and teachers have different positions, they are all for the growth of their children, which is the common mission and responsibility of parents and teachers.

so in the process of educating children, family education should be consistent with school education.

Liu Changming, principal of Beijing No. 4 Middle School, said: if parents do not cooperate with the school, the result will be a tragedy.

parents' attention and support determine the speed of children's progress.

if parents do not support teachers' work and do not communicate with teachers, then teachers do not have an overall grasp of their children's education, and it is difficult to teach students in accordance with their aptitude.

so the better the cooperation between parents and teachers, the more successful the education will be.

A well-known Japanese educationist Duohu Hui shared an example:

the son of a botanist asked the teacher with an unknown grass, but the teacher did not know it.

the teacher told the child that his father was a botanist and could go home and ask his father.

the next day, the child came to the teacher with a letter, saying that his father didn't know him either, and asked him to give the letter to the teacher.

the teacher read the letter, which stated the name and characteristics of the grass, and finally wrote a sentence: I hope this question will be answered by the teacher, which must be more appropriate.

the father's approach is very clever. He lowers his identity to support the teacher and helps the teacher create an image in the child's mind. In fact, this is also supporting his own child.

on the way for their children to study, smart parents never stand on the opposite side of the teacher, but know how to stand side by side with the teacher.

along the way, when parents and teachers meet, there is a meeting of love and trust.

parents support teachers' education and cooperate with the work of the school, which is to give their children the best education.

the best educational relationship is that parents support teachers and teachers support their children.

in this way, children can get the best knowledge education in school and the best personality education in the family, so as to thrive.