The weak take revenge, the strong forgive, and the wise ignore

/June 2022

read a short story.

A young man is always unhappy. He asks an eminent monk to explain himself.

the eminent monk grabbed a handful of salt, put it in a glass of water and gave him a sip. The young man frowned, and the water in the cup was bitter and salty.

the same handful of salt, the eminent monk put it in the lake and let the young man drink it, and the lake is still sweet and sweet.

the eminent monk said to the young man:

the pain of life is like this salt.

how bitter and salty we feel depends entirely on the size of the container in which the salt is put.

this container is the human heart. If a person's heart is small, life will be bitter.

along the way of life, there are always ups and downs, some things do not have to worry about, some people do not have to worry about.

if the mindset is right, life will not be tired.

the weak retaliate

Last summer, I planned to seal up my balcony, so I went to a shop on a street of building materials and chose a kind of toughened glass to seal the windowsill.

the day after the installation, I opened a window and looked carefully and found that there was no sign on the toughened glass.

you should know that regular tempered glass must have 3C marks mandatory by the state.

I asked the store if it was made of ordinary glass.

the shopkeeper denied it and made it clear that he provided toughened glass.

I had to remove a glass and break it to verify it.

after a bang, the glass broke all over the floor, and each piece of slag had a sharp water chestnut.

seeing this, the shopkeeper hurriedly explained that it was the installer who took the wrong glass.

he is willing to compensate me for the price difference and replace the broken glass for free.

I think the shopkeeper has a good attitude and actively cooperates to solve the problem, so I agree to his arrangement.

unexpectedly, I was greatly disappointed by what followed.

one day, when I came home from work, the key could not fit into the keyhole of the door.

turn on the flashlight and see that the keyhole is blocked with 502 glue.

I asked the property and the neighbors, and the neighbors called up their own monitoring, so that I could see the whole process.

it was the shopkeeper who blocked the keyhole.

as a businessman, dishonesty, fraud, and retaliation by unscrupulous means afterwards are really spurned.

when you are slightly dissatisfied with an accident, you want to stumble and retaliate by violent means, which is the typical thinking of the weak.

revenge is enjoyable at the moment, but in the end, it will only make people fall into a whirlpool of hatred, harm and harm, and the loss outweighs the gain.

Don't use revenge to make up for your emotions, don't be a narrow loser in revenge.

you know, the higher the life, the more you can get rid of the lower emotions.

the strong forgive

during the Spring and Autumn period, the struggle for the throne broke out between Prince Xiaobai and Prince Jiu.

Guan Zhong is a supporter of Prince Jiu. in order to help Jiu become king, Guan Zhong single-handedly chased Xiaobai, shot an arrow at Xiaobai, and saw Xiaobai spitting blood. Guan Zhong thought he had successfully shot him and turned away.

as a result, the sword did not kill Xiaobai, but hit Xiaobai's belt, and Childe Xiaobai escaped.

later, Xiaobai took the lead, successfully ascended to the throne and became Duke Huan of Qi.

Guan Zhong was locked up as a former political enemy.

Duke Huan of Qi first ascended the throne and was in urgent need of talents to assist the government. He sealed Bao Shuya as prime minister, but Bao Shuya strongly recommended Guan Zhong.

Bao Shuya said to Duke Huan of Qi:

so Duke Huan of Qi found Guan Zhong, and the two chatted for three days and three nights.

Guan Zhong's talent was greatly appreciated by Duke Huan of Qi, who decided to put aside his former feud and choose to forgive.

he personally untied Guan Zhong, worshiped him as prime minister, respected Guan Zhong as "second father", and entrusted him with great power.

Guan Zhong was deeply moved by the magnanimity of Duke Huan of Qi. He helped Duke Huan of Qi wholeheartedly and lived up to expectations, which greatly increased the national strength of Qi and helped him become one of the five hegemons in the Spring and Autumn period.

MiyazakiHayao said:

Duke Huan of Qi repaid evil with virtue and forgave magnanimously. This is the posture of the strong.

he not only won Guan Zhong's loyalty, but also retained talents for Qi and strengthened the country.

Lincoln said:

A man with a strong heart will not let himself be bound by resentment and waste his energy on holding a grudge.

Let other people's mistakes go with the wind, forgiveness and forgiveness can turn an enemy into a friend.

choosing to forgive is not only a kind of self-cultivation, but also a kind of realm.

the wise ignore

when Zeng Guofan, a famous minister of the late Qing Dynasty, was studying at Yuelu Academy in Changsha, a hypocritical classmate was always looking for fault.

because Zeng Guofan's desk is by the window and the light is very good, he said to Zeng Guofan with his nostrils turned upside down:

all the light I read came through the window, and you actually covered it. How can I read?

after hearing this, Zeng Guofan looked around and found that there was no other place to put the table.

without rebuttal or protest, he moved the tables and chairs to his bedside.

at night, Zeng Guofan was still burning the midnight oil to read.

the classmate began to reprimand Zeng Guofan again: "Why do you read it during the day and at night, and do you let people sleep?"

Zeng Guofan also made no excuses and continued to read the poems silently without making a sound.

later, the academy held a mock exam, and Zeng Guofan ranked above this student.

the man was so dissatisfied that he yelled, "it's his fault."It's a good position. "

someone retorted, "didn't you ask Zeng Guofan to move the table to the bedside?"

he said proudly, "it was I who asked him to move the table to the bedside. He took away all the good fengshui in this house."

other students can't watch it any longer and ask for justice for Zeng Guofan one after another.

Zeng Guofan persuaded everyone to ignore him and laughed it off.

this is the difference between the wise and the mediocre.

Wise people don't control their emotions by other people's ridiculous words and deeds, but mediocre people always like grandstanding, which turns out to be noisy jokes.

Rockefeller said:

there are always people in the world who dislike you and deliberately find fault and create trouble. if you haggle, you will get caught up in bad things and only add to your troubles.

No matter what others do, if you ignore it, it can't hurt you at all.

just as the saying goes: if the heart does not move, what can the wind do? if you are not hurt, the years will be all right.

people who are really wise all know how to ignore the unimportant people in life, have nothing to do with pain and itching, and live a light and leisurely life.

Life is better

No one can live a lonely island, we all have to deal with other people.

how to get along with others is a compulsory course in the adult world.

if we are always focused on entanglements with others and our hearts are too small, we will be caught in a cocoon and suffer from it.

Nietzsche said:

if you want to win everything, you must take revenge if you suffer some losses, and cling to other people's mistakes. In the end, you will find it difficult for yourself.

to be a man, the victory lies in the state of mind, and the defeat lies in the consideration.

the rest of my life is not long, so there is no need to waste time on people and things that are not worth it.

We will not be easily ignited by others, and we will not be easily influenced by others if we have a better mindset, open our hearts a little, and despise ourselves.

you know that most of the misfortunes we encounter in life are often caused by a bad state of mind.

Happy people don't have more, but care less.

Tolstoy said:

May you and I change our mindset and embrace happiness.

Let's start now.

I have read a short story.

A young man is always unhappy. He asks an eminent monk to explain himself.

the eminent monk grabbed a handful of salt, put it in a glass of water and gave him a sip. The young man frowned, and the water in the cup was bitter and salty.

the same handful of salt, the eminent monk put it in the lake and let the young man drink it, and the lake is still sweet and sweet.

the eminent monk said to the young man:

the pain of life is like this salt.

how bitter and salty we feel depends entirely on the size of the container in which the salt is put.

this container is the human heart. If a person's heart is small, life will be bitter.

along the way of life, there are always ups and downs, some things do not have to worry about, some people do not have to worry about.

if the mindset is right, life will not be tired.

the weak retaliate

Last summer, I planned to seal off my balcony, so I went to a shop on a street of building materials and chose a kind of toughened glass to seal the windowsill.

the day after the installation, I opened a window and looked carefully and found that there was no sign on the toughened glass.

you should know that regular tempered glass must have 3C marks mandatory by the state.

I asked the store if it was made of ordinary glass.

the shopkeeper denied it and made it clear that he provided toughened glass.

I had to remove a glass and break it to verify it.

after a bang, the glass broke all over the floor, and each piece of slag had a sharp water chestnut.

seeing this, the shopkeeper hurriedly explained that it was the installer who took the wrong glass.

he is willing to compensate me for the price difference and replace the broken glass for free.

I think the shopkeeper has a good attitude and actively cooperates to solve the problem, so I agree to his arrangement.

unexpectedly, I was greatly disappointed by what followed.

one day, when I came home from work, the key could not fit into the keyhole of the door.

turn on the flashlight and see that the keyhole is blocked with 502 glue.

I asked the property and the neighbors, and the neighbors called up their own monitoring, so that I could see the whole process.

it was the shopkeeper who blocked the keyhole.

as a businessman, dishonesty, fraud, and retaliation by unscrupulous means afterwards are really spurned.

when you are slightly dissatisfied with an accident, you want to stumble and retaliate by violent means. This is the typical thinking of the weak.

retaliation is enjoyable at the moment, but in the end, it will only make people fall into a whirlpool of hatred, harm and harm, and the loss outweighs the gain.

Don't use revenge to make up for your emotions, don't be a narrow loser in revenge.

you know, the higher the life is, the more you can get rid of the lower emotions.

the strong forgive

during the Spring and Autumn period, the struggle between Prince Xiaobai and Prince Jiao broke out.

Guan Zhong is a supporter of Prince Jie. In order to help Jiu become king, Guan Zhong single-handedly chased Xiaobai, shot an arrow at Xiaobai, and saw Xiaobai spitting blood. Guan Zhong thought he had successfully shot him, so he turned and left.

as a result, the sword did not kill Xiaobai, but hit Xiaobai's belt, and Childe Xiaobai escaped.

later, Xiaobai took the lead, successfully ascended to the throne and became Duke Huan of Qi.

Guan Zhong was locked up as a former political enemy.

Duke Huan of Qi first ascended the throne and was in urgent need of talents to assist the government. He sealed Bao Shuya as prime minister, but Bao Shuya strongly recommended Guan Zhong.

Bao Shuya said to Duke Huan of Qi:

so Duke Huan of Qi found Guan Zhong, and the two chatted for three days and three nights.

Guan Zhong's talent was greatly appreciated by Duke Huan of Qi, who decided to put aside his former feud and choose to forgive.

he personally untied Guan Zhong, worshiped him as prime minister, respected Guan Zhong as "second father", and entrusted him with great power.

MiyazakiHayao said:

Duke Huan of Qi repaid evil with virtue and forgave magnanimously. This is the posture of the strong.

he not only won Guan Zhong's loyalty, but also retained talents for Qi and strengthened the country.

Lincoln once said:

A man with a strong heart will not let himself be bound by resentment and waste his energy on holding a grudge.

Let other people's faults go with the wind, and forgiveness can turn enemies into friends.

choosing to forgive is not only a kind of self-cultivation, but also a kind of realm.

A wise man ignores

when Zeng Guofan, a famous minister of the late Qing Dynasty, was studying at Yuelu Academy in Changsha, there was a hypocritical classmate who always found fault.