The most advanced moments: breaking up.

/August 2022

Peng Lei, the lead singer of the new trousers band, has a title in the community: the bandit in the circle of friends.

the number of his Wechat friends remains at 100 all the year round.

add those who have never talked again, delete them; those who don't like them, delete them; and those who are bored, delete them as well.

he once talked about his philosophy of life in an interview: never waste time on people who are not worth it.

when you are young, you always like to add to your moments.

when you reach a certain age, you will find that there is no need to invite too many people into your life.

the most advanced circle of friends is always broken, given up, and separated.


uncomfortable relationship, when breaking off

not long ago, I saw a deeply emotional sentence on the Internet:

"the biggest obsession of many people is that they are too eager to keep their relationship, regardless of whether it suits you or not.

you need to know that relationships that make you feel tired are actually wrong. "

A relationship that is supposed to be comfortable with others and takes too much effort will only hurt themselves.

backstage, a reader talked about his own experience.

when she first entered college, she wanted to be friends with a girl in her class. She always liked to run to other people's dormitory when she had nothing to do.

either talk to her about the books she has read recently or invite her to the exhibition.

thanks to her efforts, the relationship between the two is getting closer.

but she soon found that although she spared her heart, the other person was always lukewarm.

moreover, the two don't get along in many places.

she likes to listen to folk songs, but the girl says that those who listen to folk songs are fake literature and art; she is lovelorn and crying for comfort, but the other party thinks she is hypocritical.

she walks on thin ice every time she chats, for fear that the other person will be unhappy if she says something wrong.

in the end, physically and mentally exhausted, she had no choice but to end the relationship.

the writer Liu Yu has a saying quite right:

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if you give, he does not understand; he does not care about your mood, then this relationship is not worth continuing.

as the novel the elegance of the hedgehog says:

people who really have the same frequency as you can cherish each other without deliberately maintaining them.

but no matter how hard you try, it is pointless if you are not the same people.

Life is already very difficult, so why bother to embarrass yourself in the relationship.

stop pushing those who are not suitable; just let go of those feelings that make people tired.

any relationship that makes you struggle to maintain is wrong.


the person who consumes you

has seen a topic on Douban: when did you make up your mind to end a relationship?

among them, there is an answer that deeply touches me:

the more people I know over the years, the more I agree with the sentence:

the people around you will imperceptibly affect your quality of life.

being with people who consume themselves is a huge social disaster.

writer Xia Yixuan mentioned a friend in his article.

every time people go out for dinner, he either says that his work is boring and his feelings are not going well, or he complains that the leader is bothering him.

turn an otherwise relaxed gathering of friends into a complaint meeting.

every time she comforted each other with kind words and kindly introduced him to a new job.

as a result, the other party came to the new company, still fishing in troubled waters every day, doing nothing, and naturally failed the probation period.

later, at a party, she brought her computer because she had to work overtime temporarily.

as a result, the friend not only said strangely that she was "crazy to make money", but also accused her of being unreliable in the job she had recommended before.

when she got home in the evening, she immediately blocked the friend.

in our life, we have all met such people:

some people are like a garbage truck full of negative energy, which makes your day's good mood disappear suddenly, and the whole person becomes full of hostility.

some people clearly do not want to make progress, but can not see you work hard to improve yourself, either sour sarcasm to your face or stumbling behind your back.

there are others who simply take you as a free meal ticket and ask for it without a bottom line, making you dumb to eat Coptis chinensis.

the best way to save yourself is to stay away from those who always consume you.

there is a saying that makes sense:

in a good relationship, two people must nourish each other and achieve each other.


invalid social communication, when there is a small conversation from

, I feel deeply every time I read it.

An and B show off: "I have 3000 friends on Wechat."

B asked, "how many people respond to you in a second?" How many people advise you to go to bed early? How many people are willing to lend you money? "

A heard this and was silent.

people are always easily kidnapped by the so-called network of people when they are young.

I went to one party after another and got nothing but exhaustion, but told myself, "this is networking."

friends have been added one by one, although they have never talked to anyone again, but they comfort themselves that they "will come in handy".

later you will gradually find that those who do not have the strength to socialize, but a castle in the air.

Dear myself, there is a plot that is particularly gripping.

Zhang Zhizhi and her husband Liu Yang are just ordinary office workers.

because of the policy reform, their children entered a better local kindergarten.