Ten "laws of minutes" change countless people
I believe many people have heard the saying:
"thought determines action, action determines habit, and habit determines success or failure."
in fact, it comes from the personal experience of Benjamin Franklin, who is known as the "American legend".
in order to get rid of his problems, he made up his mind and made up 13 habits.
includes ordinary words and deeds, and even refines the formation of habits to every day and every minute.
Life can't get better without slow cooking of trifles and fermentation of time.
the true self-discipline lies not in doing something earth-shaking, but in daily practice.
here are 10 "laws of minutes" to help you become a better yourself.
talk for half a minute
have you found that many quarrels and misunderstandings in life are caused by a quick mouth?
obviously there is no malice, but he offends people because he speaks without thinking.
originally there was a lot of kindness, but because he couldn't express it, he complained.
it's easy to open your mouth, but it's not easy to communicate well.
Socrates is right. Go through the sieve before you speak.
think twice before you speak, so as not to hurt others without knowing it.
if you open your mouth slowly, trouble won't knock on the door.
when you want to judge someone, stop for half a minute and ask yourself if you really know the truth.
when you want to argue with someone, take half a minute to see if there is a better way to express it.
leave a little time of silence for yourself and others, which is the greatest kindness.
do something for two minutes first
there are two fighting villains living in everyone's heart:
one is called "start now" and the other is called "talk about it later".
think about it. Do you often encounter them making a fuss?
the work to be handed in didn't start until the night before;
agreed to read a book and swipe your cell phone back and forth in the wee hours of the morning.
in psychology, there is a famous two-minute law:
what you'd better do within 2 minutes, otherwise you will procrastinate or even give up.
A giant who can get rid of procrastination and take action by starting everything first.
every time I don't want to write, I force myself to organize my thoughts for a while.
once you get into the state, it can easily become 20 minutes or 1 hour.
Bad habits cannot be eliminated and can only be replaced by other habits.
it is always concrete actions that defeat confusion and anxiety.
be angry and calm for 3 minutes
as the old saying goes, boiling water is not fully reflected, and anger can not see the truth clearly.
when a person is angry, reason is easily defeated.
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often appear insincere words and do things that hurt others and themselves.
calm down afterwards and either feel worthless or regret it.
whenever Lin Zexu wants to lose his temper, he will look up at the two words hanging in the study: control anger.
every time Hu Shi couldn't help quarreling with his wife, he immediately locked himself in the bathroom.
people are emotional creatures. There are joys and sorrows, and happiness and anger.
people who are really mature know how to handle things coldly.
the next time you get emotional, try taking a few deep breaths, and then count from 0 to 100.
not to be happy for a moment, but also to give yourself a way back.
keep accounts for 5 minutes.
about the financial situation of contemporary people, there is a very popular joke on the Internet:
"everything goes up except wages; the income is OK, but the rest is pitiful."
in my opinion, I would like to add one more sentence: if you look at the small amount of flowers, it adds up to a huge sum of money.
there is a "crazy savings" group on Douban:
some people save 200000 yuan two years after graduation, while others earn 8000 yuan a month, but they dig out the down payment of two apartments.
behind enviable savings, there is a good habit: bookkeeping.
Mobile payment has become a daily routine, so don't underestimate the power of bookkeeping.
if you don't stimulate yourself with numbers, people will never have a sense of urgency to restrain consumption.
every account you write down is a scale in your heart.
small to food and clothing expenses, human exchanges, to financial investment.
it is clear at a glance which money does not need to be spent and which money can be saved.
Adults, who pay attention to money, are responsible for life.
be upset, meditate for 8 minutes
mention meditation, many people will think of the scenes of master closed-door practice and eminent monk meditation under the tree.
in fact, it's a good way for you and me to manage emotions on a daily basis.
stress and anxiety have become the norm in a fast-paced life.
there are moments when everyone is impetuous: too tired at work, too much chores, and children don't worry.
sometimes what bothers you is not the thing itself, but your own opinion.
the next time you are upset, try meditation.
close your eyes, block all foreign thoughts, and only feel your own breath and breath.
calm down, it is possible to look at all things.
just a few minutes a day, you will find that your previous anxiety has been swept away.
things that seem tricky are also getting easier.
when Obama was elected president, a reporter asked him what he thought.What is your biggest advantage?
he answered only four words: always in advance.
A red light, a sudden accident, an important company meeting on the way to work.
Life is a disk that can collapse at any time. Be prepared for everything so that veterans will not be in chaos.
make it a habit to make it a habit to keep the little things from getting bigger.
10 minutes early in the morning, you don't have to worry about losing things, being late, and starving;
work is arranged 10 minutes in advance to get into the state more quickly and calmly;
the meeting arrives 10 minutes earlier to make a good impression on others, maybe you'll bury an egg for yourself.
there is a good saying: "10 minutes is details, and 10 minutes in advance is foresight."
in this era where every minute counts, life is a battlefield without gunpowder smoke.
your concept of time and principle is your hardest card.
Review 15 minutes before going to bed
there is a scholar named Xu Pu in the Ming Dynasty who is used to having a bedtime review every day.
if you do anything wrong, you will throw a black bean in the bottle on the left-hand side;
if you make any progress, throw a soy bean to the right.
over time, there is little change in black, but more and more soybeans.
when people are alive, they will inevitably neglect to make mistakes in life and work.
learn to reflect and review in order to accumulate experience quickly.
try to spend more than 10 minutes every day before going to bed and ask yourself a few questions:
what have you done today? What lessons should be learned? Where else can it be optimized?