People pay for their emotions all their lives.

have read such a story.

one day, a hungry snake crawled into a woodworking shop in search of food.

when it passed the saw on the ground, it cut its body a little bit.

it turned angrily and bit the saw.

as a result, the saw was intact, but it hurt its mouth, too.

the snake became more angry, red-eyed, rushed up and entangled the saw hard.

in the end, he used up all his strength and didn't hurt the saw. Instead, he was sawed to death.

the poor snake didn't understand to death that it was not the saw that killed it, but his out-of-control emotions.

in our lives, we will inevitably encounter unpleasant things, such as sorrow and knot, constant internal friction and self-injury, and bad temper, which leads to tragedies on impulse.

in the final analysis, people pay for their emotions all their lives.

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Don't let the bad mood get rid of the good mood

some time ago, a friend of mine had a major operation because of breast problems.

later she sighed to me: "before the age of 30, I was always used to keeping everything in my heart. My work was not going well, my feelings were bad, and I was overwhelmed by trifles." It was not until a serious illness that I knew that anger would destroy a person's health. "

Western modern psychology believes that: in addition to external injuries, most of the chronic physical pain is caused by internal stress and psychological problems.

the biggest enemy on the way of life is actually your own negative emotions.

bestselling author he Quanfeng once told a story in his book.

the head of the cardiology department of a well-known university had a heart attack and was sent to the hospital for emergency treatment. After saving his life, he began to seriously reflect on his life.

during his three months in hospital, he sorted out a lot of experience about life, which was finally summarized into two rules of life.

these two rules of life are not secret recipes for health preservation, but very simple ways to deal with life:

rule 1, don't waste your energy on small things;

rule 2, everything is a little thing.

Life is always troubling after trouble. if you let your emotions get involved and make your life like a mess, you will not be in a good mood.

learning to adjust your mood is a person's best practice.

as Professor Luo Xiang said, "be cautious about things that can be controlled, and be optimistic about things that are out of control."

the best way to maintain good health is to keep a balanced state of mind and a stable mood.

02

all bad emotions are paid for by ourselves

writer Liu Na once said: "emotion is a gun. When we pull the trigger of emotion, the gun is actually aimed at ourselves."

in life, we all encounter a lot of bad things.

some people struggle endlessly over some trivial things, and trivial quarrels eventually turn into fists and fists, while others explode their mentality when they encounter an emergency, brewing trifles into great disasters.

after the fury, however, you have to bear the consequences.

two days ago, I saw a piece of heartbreaking news.

because life is not going well, the two father and son quarreled at the wine table and actually spilled liquor on each other.

the quarrel between the two became more and more intense, and finally the father lit his son with a lighter. In an instant, father and son became a fire man.

in the end, the father was taken to the hospital and died, and the son was badly burned.

facing such a result, the son must be very remorseful, but no matter how sorry he is, the father will never come back.

Liang Shiqiu once said: "when the blood is boiling, the reason is not very clear, words and deeds are easy to exceed points, and it is not suitable for others or for themselves."

indulge your emotions, and it will surely punish you in the most painful way.

for all the bad emotions, you are the one who finally pays the bill.

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Professor Davis, a psychologist, has followed nearly 1000 people and come to the conclusion that if a person is in a fierce bad mood for a long time, it can lead to family failure, bad career, or make a mess of good things.

people who find it difficult to control their emotions often find it difficult to control their lives.

I have seen such a story.

Lao Zhang is a veteran employee of the company. he used to work very hard in the market service department, but he is so grumpy that he is often complained about conflicts with customers.

he was not in good health either. Once he suddenly fell ill at his post and stayed in the hospital for more than a month before he came back to work.

the general manager wanted him to recuperate, so he was transferred to the Logistics Department. Lao Zhang was furious when he learned that it was the leader putting on small shoes for him.

he did not realize that his poor health was related to long-term business trips, and that his salary had not been reduced when he changed to this position.

it was a good thing, but he had a big quarrel with his leader and insisted on resigning.

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after he resigned, he opened a restaurant, but later closed down because of repeated quarrels with customers. He had different businesses, and lost all his money because he lost his temper.

later, I didn't have any capital, so I started selling pancakes. Not to mention the wind and rain every day, my income was much less than before.

there is a saying that in this life, people win in tolerance and die in temper.

some people have a bad life, often because they can't control their anger.

people who are dominated by emotions can only allow themselves to become weak.Life slips into a bottomless abyss.

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to control one's emotions, one can control one's life

. I read a question on the Internet earlier. What is the sign of a person's maturity?

A high praise replied: "even if the inner waves are rough, the surface can be light."

summed up in four words: emotional stability.

some time ago, I watched an interview by Luo Zhenyu.

when asked by the host, "is there anything sad or difficult for you to accept?"

Luo Zhenyu replied with a smile: "there is no so-called emotion in my life now, only what problems have happened and how to solve them."

A short sentence shows all wisdom.

people who live successfully in life are good at managing emotions.

the writer Shen Congwen is famous for his good temper, humility and sincerity, and has always regarded himself as a "countryman".

he is simple in character, kind and tolerant, and no matter what bad things can affect him.

as he said of himself: "because of my character, to deal with any difficulties, my consistent attitude is to accept it in silence, neither discouraging nor moaning."

his strong ability of self-digestion made Shen Congwen's life turbulent but calm, and healed countless injured souls with the words in his writings.

Laozi once said, "he who wins is strong, and he who wins himself is strong."

controlling emotions is not only the wisdom of life, but also the practice of life.

do not be trapped in the heart, not confused in love, in order to live a comfortable and safe life.

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Lin Yutang has a passage in his article that I deeply agree with: "A person who has a clean heart, a clear mind, and no superfluous emotions and delusions will bring sense of security to people."

because he does not hurt others, does not hurt himself, does not cause trouble, nor does he bother others. "