Life wins in kindness, loses in temper, and succeeds in atmosphere.

/August 2022

in life, it is impossible to have everything satisfactory. There will always be all kinds of things that upset you, make you angry, and even cause trouble and conflicts.

everyone has a temper, but losing one's temper wantonly won't solve anything, it will only make things worse.

as the saying goes:

it is easy to be friendly in doing things, not to lose one's temper in a hurry, and the sea accepts all rivers to nourish the atmosphere.

Life is like a spiritual practice. we cannot predict the way ahead. What we can do is to adjust our mindset, be more friendly, have more atmosphere, and have less temper, so that things will develop in the direction we expect, and life will be colorful.


Life, winning in harmony

there is a saying in Caigen Tan: the qi of heaven and earth is born when it is warm, and it kills if it is cold. Therefore, if the nature is cold, the enjoyment is also cold and thin. Only those who are kind and warm-hearted are blessed and their luster is long.

when dealing with people, only by treating others with tenderness and humility can we resolve all contradictions and conflicts and get along well with others.

Master Dream window is an eminent monk. Once he crossed the river by boat, and as soon as the boat was not far from the river bank, he saw a general coming in a hurry and shouted, "wait a minute, the boatman will take me there."

seeing the ferocious face of the general, all the people on board were afraid and said, "the ship has sailed and there is no turning back."

the boatman should also say, "Please wait for the next boat!"

only Zen Master Dream window said, "Boatman, the boat is not long off shore. It's convenient to map. Let's take him across the river later."

as soon as the boatman saw that Zen Master Mengchuan asked for mercy, he sailed the boat back and let the general on board.

as soon as he got on board, the general angrily picked up a whip and whipped the Zen master Mengchuang, and scolded, "the monk goes away and gives me his seat."

the whip hit the Zen master of Mengguang right on the head, the blood ran down his cheek, and the Zen master gave up his seat to the general without saying a word.

the boat came ashore, and if there was nothing to do, he went to the river and quietly washed the blood off his head.

when the overbearing general saw that Master Mengchuan was so calm and indifferent, he immediately felt remorse and sincerely apologized to Mengchuan Zen master.

Master Dream window not only accepted his apology, but also calmly said:

"it doesn't matter, everyone will be upset sometimes!"

the Analects of Confucius says: "the use of etiquette, harmony is the most expensive."

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the so-called kindness means that peace is the most precious in everything and must have a tolerant heart.

when everyone is alive, everyone has his own mood and temper. We should learn to face up to other people's emotions and tolerate others' temper.

in many cases, tolerance does not mean indulgence, kindness does not mean weakness, and greeting people with kindness is also a kind of wisdom in life.

as the saying goes: there are few disputes when dealing with things in a friendly manner, but there are many friends when you smile.

treat everyone and everything with harmony, preferring three points rather than hurting friendship, many fearless disputes and quarrels will be avoided.

be calm and calm and accept all kinds of rivers in the world.

if you are friendly and kind, good luck will come uninvited, and life will become more and more comfortable.


in life, losing to temper

good temper is the help of your life; bad temper is the resistance of your life.

as Zhang Xiaoxian said: everything is not going well, because there is still a temper. If you have a temper, you will suffer not only others but also yourself.

when people are angry and angry, they tend to lose their minds and do something impulsive, but they regret it afterwards.

I remember that in the movie "Wild Story" there is such a plot:

male host Corey drives his beloved car on the desolate road, meets a road bully, deliberately keeps changing lanes, but does not give way.

Corey was not reconciled to being suppressed by him all the time, accelerated to overtake, scolded the other party, and walked away.

not wanting not to drive too far, Corey's car suddenly had a flat tire, so he had to get out of the car and change the tire.

just then, the road bully who had just clashed with him caught up with him, carried out a series of provocative and humiliating acts against him, and smashed the window of Corey's car.

Corey couldn't stand it and wanted to crash the road bully's car into the river and tried to kill the road bully.

in this way, the battle between the two men became more and more fierce. finally, the fuel tank of the car was detonated and both were killed in the fire.

the beginning of things is just a trivial matter, but as a result of mutual anger, resulting in a car crash and death.

you know, losing your temper not only doesn't solve any problems, but anger can also have a terrible impact on your life.

as the saying goes, a bad temper is a double-edged sword that hurts others as well as oneself.

so be sure to control your temper.

in the face of bad people and bad things, let yourself keep three points of calmness and seven points of reason, take things lightly, say less hurtful words, and do less regrets, so as to avoid causing harm to both sides.

Don't get angry and lose your temper.

only by learning to put down your temper can you be the master of life and meet a better future.


one day, after performing at the San Diego Air Show, he flew back to Los Angeles. When the plane reached an altitude of 300 meters, the engine suddenly stalled.

because of his skill, he controlled the plane to land safely, although the plane was badly damaged, but fortunately there were no casualties.

back at the airport, Hoover asked to see the mechanic who maintained the plane.

the young mechanic realized that he had made a mistake, felt guilty and ashamed, and was ready to accept Hoover's reproach and punishment.

Hoover had every reason to condemn the mechanic in the face of such a big mistake.

but he didn't. Instead, he gently hugged him and said,

"to show that I believe you won't make a mistake again, I want you to continue to maintain my plane tomorrow."

hearing this, the mechanic nodded gratefully.

since then, he has not made any mistakes at work, and he has become Hoover's most tacit partner.

if a man is not a saint, he is infallible.

Hoover is well aware of each other's annoyed feelings, knows how to understand and accommodate others, and treats things with a sudden attitude, which is precisely the kind of people who will be more respected by others.

as the saying goes: the sky is big enough to hold the vast sea of stars; the earth is big enough to support all living things; the sea is big enough to accept the flow of rivers and rivers; if people have an atmosphere, the sea is in the heart.

atmosphere is not only a kind of bearing, pattern, but also a kind of self-cultivation in dealing with people and things.

anyone who has an atmosphere must be broad-minded, treat others with magnanimity, and be able to accept others in a tolerant state of mind.

in this way, we can accumulate more luck, have more opportunities, and make the road of life wider and wider.

Please believe that great things can only be achieved by being a man in the atmosphere.

Life is short and things change.

instead of haggling, it is better to be more atmospheric and more comfortable.


Let one step be magnanimous, and one point wide is magnanimous. Only in this way can you make your life less unnecessary trouble and more beautiful colors.

for the rest of your life, may you be kind to others, tolerate others, and walk out of the beautiful scenery with your own footsteps.

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