If you are more and more silent, less and less want to say.

/July 2022

I don't know when I became more and more silent and didn't want to talk.

I no longer like to argue with others, no longer rush to complain to others, and no longer worry about people and things that are not worth it.

as Mr. Lu Xun said:

if you are becoming more and more silent, then congratulations, you have finally become a mature adult.


is not because words are poor, but disdain to fight

when I was young, I often had a red face for trifles.

if others say something unpleasant, they must use enough firepower to fight back;

if others express different views, they must win or lose by right or wrong.

in the end, those who lose are even more angry, and those who win also waste a lot of time and energy, and the loss outweighs the gain.

I have read such a short story:

Rabbit and sheep are good friends. One day they discuss what is the most delicious food in the world.

the rabbit said it was a carrot and the sheep said it was green grass. In a fit of anger, the two men quarreled with each other and asked the wolf to be the referee.

Wolf swallowed and said, "the most delicious food is not carrots or grass, but meat!" Then he ate both the rabbit and the sheep.

in this world, many things are not absolutely right or wrong, and many people's cognitive level is not at the same level. Naturally, there will be many differences in views, which cannot be changed by a few arguments.

people who are reasonable need not argue at all; people who hold their own opinions can argue no matter how much they argue.

instead of entangling over little things that have no result, it is better to keep silent and leave unrestrained.

as the saying goes, "still waters run deep, but wise men say few words."

A true wise man does not refute directly, but only thinks quietly; he can see through at a glance, but seldom says so.

they disdain to argue with others, not to do useless work, but to concentrate on practicing themselves.

do not entangle with the bad, do not argue with the fool, do not be consumed by the fool, can unload the burden and move forward light.


not to become indifferent, but to learn to be light

when I was a child, I couldn't help telling others immediately:

when I saw beautiful scenery, ate delicious food, met someone in secret love, and when I was in a good mood, I always liked to share my happiness with my friends at the first time.

I failed the exam, quarreled with my lover, was scolded by the leader, and when I was sad, I would habitually talk to a friend all night. After spitting out my bitterness, I felt much more relaxed.

but gradually, you find that the messages you send are getting more and more late and perfunctory.

below your moments, there are very few likes, sometimes only one or two weird comments.

until one day, you see a beautiful sea of flowers and take a lot of beautiful pictures, but you don't know who to send them to.

you have been hit hard by your life, and you can't sleep over and over all night. Rummaging through the address book, I couldn't find anyone to talk to.

at that moment, you suddenly realized that not everyone can accompany you to the end, and not everyone is willing to understand your joys and sorrows and know that you are cold and warm.

you feel that you are sharing happiness, others only think you are showing off;

you feel that you are pouring out pain, and others only think you are pretentious.

there is a good saying:

instead of feeling sad about such things, it is better to look down on these relationships.

everyone has their own life to be busy, everyone has unknown bitterness and tiredness, it is impossible to revolve around you forever.

when you learn to be bearish, you will find a lot of things. in fact, there is no need to let others know, let alone say to everyone like Mrs. Xianglin.

when you are happy, just enjoy it; when you are in pain, just grit your teeth and carry it through.

you don't have to disturb others all the time. You can still live a swaying life by yourself.


it's not that you become vulnerable, but that you grow up

once upon a time, we wrote all our joys and sorrows on our faces, laughed when we were happy, and cried loudly when we were sad, lest others might not know.

now, we have learned to swallow what we say silently and be a quiet adult.

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growing up, sometimes it's really just an instant.

when you have experienced the wind and frost of life and the warmth of the heart, you will find that no matter how powerless words are, it is not as good as a precious silence.

some people, when they see it clearly, they take it lightly and do not have to tear their faces.

some things, if you look down on them, you can forget it, and you don't have to talk about it.

there are some words, it is useless to say, it is better not to say anything;

there is some pain, no one is destined to understand, so you slowly heal yourself.

half of my life is over, so it is better to be silent.

Silence, not because the words are poor, but because the heart is empty. It's not that you become vulnerable, but that you grow up.

you finally find that you can only go your own way, and your heart is stronger than before.

you don't need to prove yourself to anyone, you don't need to get attention from others, just do a good job of yourself silently, you can have your own splendor.

Life is too short. May you walk gently and firmly.