Encourage children, these four ways are the most effective, parents have a look
the growth of children needs the rain and dew of the sun, praise and encouragement are the best nutrients.
however, inappropriate encouragement may dampen the enthusiasm of children.
parents, how do you usually encourage your children?
"you are great!"
"you are so smart!"
there seems to be no problem with this kind of encouragement, but the details will only feel dry, and the child may be happy for a while, but soon get tired of hearing it.
from these words, children cannot get enough recognition and appreciation, and they are not sure what to do next.
how to give children motivation and self-confidence through encouragement is also a "knowledge".
in educating their children, many parents pay so much attention to the "overall situation" that they ignore many details.
after children finish their homework, they always clean up their desks;
students take the initiative to take out their favorite toys when they are guests;
when they eat, they always take the initiative to use public chopsticks.
these neglected small details can also have a great impact on children.
Education experts have said that in order for children to grow up healthily and happily, the details of life should not be ignored.
encourage children to do one thing well. Don't just say "great" and "very good". You should encourage details.
for example, the child draws a picture and happily brings it to you for comment.
if you only dryly praise him for his "great painting", the child may be happy, but he will also feel your perfunctory, frustrated or disappointed.
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you should praise the child for the specific content of this picture, such as the realistic painting of the kitten, the hierarchical painting of the woods, the lovely painting of the children in the room, and so on.
in this way, the child will know that you really like his painting, and will draw more attentively and strive for better painting.
in addition to praise, we should also properly point out the shortcomings and let the child know where he has done well and where he has not done well, so that he will do better next time.
encouragement must have content, and correct appreciation and guidance can stimulate children's self-confidence and enthusiasm more than boring praise.
encourage children, not only to make them feel recognized, but also to stimulate their curiosity and curiosity about the world.
people's curiosity is unique, curiosity can make us know the world, understand the world, and change the world.
the children with the least curiosity are often met with indifferent responses or even blind eyes from their parents from an early age.
there are only two endings for these children, one is to become mediocre people who do nothing, and the other is to become withdrawn and indifferent "silencers".
to encourage a child to become better, we should seize his curiosity and help him change himself and the world.
for example, when a child's exam scores go down, don't rush to blame him, but analyze the reasons with him.
"this problem does seem to be very difficult. Shall we solve it together?"
"I remember you reciting this poem. If you recall it again, I'm sure you can recite it!"
in the face of retrogression, children's self-confidence must be greatly frustrated. At this time, parents should give priority to encouragement and help their children restore their disintegrated confidence and perseverance little by little.
if the child does encounter a bottleneck, we should not directly help him solve the problem, but guide him step by step to face the problem and find a solution to the problem until he defeats the problem.
it is worth noting that such questions should not turn into sarcasm, sarcasm, let alone hurt a child's self-esteem.
satisfying children's curiosity can not only cultivate children's imagination and creativity, but also exercise their learning ability and life ability.
encouragement must be positive. Parents give their children positive growth strength, and their children can become the excellent appearance we expect them to be.
whether it's carrying things for her mother when she goes shopping, or helping her father with his slippers when he comes home, or helping with cleaning, her parents never praise her for how well she has done, let alone say "thank you".
Children want to hear a "thank you" from their parents. They don't really want to be thanked by their parents, but just want to make sure that what they are doing is correct, meaningful and helpful to their parents.
every child is a little angel for their parents. They try their best to help their parents do more things and strive to be better, making their parents proud of him.
so when children take the initiative to help, parents must express their gratitude in time:
"it's a good thing I have my baby, otherwise my mother really can't finish so many things."
"Mom appreciates your help, which makes it easy for me today."
when children strive to make progress and achievements, parents must encourage and support them in time:
"son, thank you for working so hard, you are the pride of your mother."
"son, thank yourself for your hard work. You will get a harvest if you work hard."
the child's strength is weak, and adults need to encourage and support him all the time.
moreover, the child has a strong self-esteem, and only when the self-esteem is satisfied can the child's other abilities be brought into full play.
appreciation and encouragement is one of the most effective ways to promote children's progress. Encouragement must be sincere, so that children can draw the strength of continuous progress.
Children's curiosity and trust in their parents are cultivated little by little.
however, parents' inappropriate education is pushing their children further and further away.
not long ago, the abuse of students in Internet addiction schools caused a sensation again.
most of the parents who send their children to these schools believe that their children are addicted to the Internet and cannot quit Internet addiction without control. even if their children are abused and ask them for help, they will only say: bear it again.
they do not believe that their children can quit Internet addiction on their own, let alone their promises, and allow the school to torture them again and again.
when these parents still fantasize that the school will give them an obedient and sensible child, the child only knows: "I will never trust my parents again."
parents who don't trust their children will lose their children's trust a little bit.
Trust is two-way. If parents want to gain the trust of their children, they must first trust their children.
believe that the child can do a good job, give the initiative back to the child, and encourage the child to strive for what he wants in his own way.
it's simple. Parents only need to say to their children, "I believe you."
when a child is frustrated, he may dejectedly think that he is bad and say to him, "Don't be afraid, the mother believes that you can do it."
when the child wants to give up, he may lose confidence in himself and say to him, "Let's hold on a little longer. Take your time. Dad believes you."
Children who can be trusted by their parents will be more confident and face difficulties and challenges bravely.
in the way of children's growth, the role of parents is more to accompany and encourage.
when your child is getting better and better, please don't forget to say to him, "Mom and Dad are so happy for you!"