As a man, don't blame anyone! (2021 must read good articles)

there is a saying in the Nirvana Sutra: "all mortals are troubled when they see sentient beings."

Don't like others, so all the troubles and pains come.

in fact, all the meetings in life are the best arrangements. Your complaints will only bring you misfortune!

be a man, never blame anyone. The suffering you have experienced will one day give you a satisfactory answer!

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01

Let go of your own mistakes and free your heart

you said, "I don't care about all things, so why not all things always surround?"

when you stop dwelling on your mistakes, everything around you will be smooth.

there is such a story in the Bai Yu Sutra:

there is such a story in the hundred metaphorical Sutra.

passers-by asked him, "Why are you crying?"

the Brahmin said, "I predicted that my poor son would die in seven days."

passers-by asked again, "things are changeable. Maybe if you miscalculate, he won't die." Why should you be sad in advance? "

although the Brahmin hesitated, he shook his head and affirmed, "my prophecy will never be wrong!"

on the seventh day, my son has been safe and sound. The Brahmin was very anxious, but he still refused to admit that his prophecy was wrong, so he killed his son while he was sleeping.

the Brahmin refuses to let go of his mistakes, so he will not be free for the rest of his life.

many people refuse to accept their imperfect selves all their lives. But in fact, all living beings are mortal, who doesn't grow up by making mistakes?

the Buddhist sutra says, "I am not afraid to read it, but I am afraid to be late." If you are not afraid of making mistakes, you are afraid that you will not let go of this mistake.

to let go of your mistakes and admit your shortcomings is to make peace with yourself. Only by accepting the hardships arranged by fate can we become a better self!

02

forgive others' faults and accumulate their own virtues

the Tan Jing says: "he is not me, I have been."

Master Huineng taught us that refusing to forgive the faults of others is to bring pain and annoyance to ourselves.

everything in the world has cause and effect. We are bitter about the mistakes of others. We have created our own karma, and we will certainly receive our own retribution.

according to the Dharma Sutra, there used to be an elderly ascetic sleeping in a pottery family.

before long, another young ascetic wanted to stay, so the Tao family put the two ascetics in a room.

at night, the young man stepped on the old man's head again and again, and the young man hurriedly apologized.

the old man refused to forgive and thought it was the young man who was wrong, so he cursed and said, "whoever is wrong, let his head blow up at sunrise tomorrow!"

the young man did not want to embarrass the old man, so he privately found the master of pottery and asked him to make a head out of clay.

at sunrise, he hurriedly pressed the old man's head in the water and exposed it only to the top of his head. As soon as the sun shone, the clay head exploded.

as a result, the old man also survived, and the whole person was suddenly enlightened and sincerely apologized to the young man. From then on, he was tolerant and soon gained his place.

others are not willing to let go of their mistakes, that is, to make themselves suffer.

the Buddha said, "he scolded me and beat me, defeated me and robbed me. If people give up this thought, their resentment will die down."

the Buddha tells us that a resentful thought must lead to resentful behavior. If you want to quell your anger, you can only give up your resentment and forgive him.

what you have suffered in this life is your inner obsession. To be unable to let go of other people's mistakes is to punish yourself.

A lot of times, find your own reasons more and blame others less. It's not giving in, but you let yourself go with your own kindness!

03

as a human being, don't blame anyone

Buddhists often say, "if you see that everyone is a Bodhisattva and that I am the only human being, your heart will calm down its anger."

the difference between Bodhisattva and ordinary people lies in one mind.

if all the people you can see are advantages, and if you have your own shortcomings, you are a Bodhisattva.

often reflect on yourself, no anger, no resentment, is the best practice.

I have read such a story:

four monks agreed to meditate together. In order to avoid gossiping and interruptions, they arranged to sit still for seven days, and no one could speak.

on the first day, everyone was silent. But in the middle of the night, the oil lamp was about to go out, and a man hurriedly shouted, "add some more lamp oil, don't let the fire go out!"

another monk said, "Why are you talking?"

the third monk can't wait to say, "you two are so stupid!" How can you speak? "

the fourth monk smiled proudly: "I'm the only one who didn't speak!"

other people's mistakes may be their own shortcomings.

when we hold out one finger to blame others, there are three fingers left, all pointing to ourselves.

Caigen Tan, "he who blames others is at peace."

the resentment is deep, but it is you who suffer. Only by forgiving others for their mistakes and not blaming them can you be calm.

to be a man, don't bring distress to yourself because of the faults of others, which is a kind of merciless consumption to you.

regard others as Bodhisattvas and yourself as mortals. If you have peace of mind, everything will be pleasing to the eye!

forgive othersIs to forgive others, but also for their own compassion!