10 lessons taught me in 2021
some people say: "Life does not need to be better than others, but it must be better than before."
in the prime of life, love yourself well.
with the increase of age and experience, people will feel more.
in 2021, I was taught these 10 lessons.
practice your skills
others will come naturally
you don't have to look around for contacts and expand your circle. The only thing you need is to practice your abilities.
when you have the ability, people at your level will automatically approach you, and activities that match your abilities will continue to find you.
as the saying goes:
"Don't chase a horse, you use the time to chase a horse to recommend it, and when the spring blossoms, you can attract a group of fine horses for you to choose from; don't deliberately curry favor with a person, use the time without friends to improve your ability, and when the time is ripe, you will have a group of friends to go with you."
Don't say hard words, don't do soft things
hold the principle of inner softness, and wear armor with temperature.
speaking with a pleasant face shows a person's wisdom; tough and skillful things are the winners of a high-ranking life.
speak hard and softly, leave your way back, and don't be too absolute.
not doing soft things is the bottom line and principle of being a man.
learn to refuse when you are asked to do something you don't like.
Don't wronge yourself to please others. Kindness also needs to be sharp.
pay attention to long-term accumulation
quantitative changes will lead to qualitative changes
do less things that can only make you feel good in the short term, such as staying up late, browsing your cell phone, sleeping in, and watching dramas;
do more things that have no effect in the short term, but have huge benefits in the long run, such as reading books, studying courses, and fitness.
keep learning and practicing a skill that may bring you unimaginable happiness and may even quietly change your destiny.
accumulate silently, and one day it will change from quantitative to qualitative.
as the saying goes, "every good person has a period of silence, which is a time when we have made a lot of efforts but failed to get results, and we call them taking root."
No one will come to the snow for you, and you have to see the scenery you like.
is a necessary skill for survival in society
We study passively from small to big, but after work, no one urges us, and no one will take the initiative to help us.
if you can't do it at work, you can only teach yourself.
Today, society is making progress faster than we thought. Not making progress is no longer staying in the same place, but being eliminated by society. Just like sailing against the current, if you do not advance, you will fall behind.
to maintain long-term active learning is not to become a powerful person, but the only way not to be eliminated by society.
keep on reading
the famous writer Sanmao once said:
"if you read more, your appearance will change naturally. Many times, you may think that many of the books you have read have become blurred and forgotten. In fact, they are still boundless in potential temperament, in conversation, in mind, and of course, they may also be revealed in life and words."
the book has its own house of gold, and the book has its own beauty.
by reading, you can broaden your horizons, take a road you have never taken before, and see a different world.
We need to read in our lives, which is a way to organize ourselves.
stay away from the crowd, digest yourself, remove negative emotions, and accept new thoughts.
know the world but not sophisticated
smooth and naive
in the process of growing up, a person will experience several heartbreaking moments, and the three values will be subverted again and again.
Roman Roland once said: "there is only one true heroism in the world, which is to still love life after knowing the truth of life."
learn to heal yourself, learn to be strong externally and internally, strong enough to face problems calmly, endure the impatience of others, and be unable to do so.
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know but not sophisticated, smooth and naive experience, gentle treatment of the world's good and bad.
gratitude is the gift of life
Carnegie said: "gratitude is the product of great breeding."
Life is an echo. Give people roses. If you give others the best, you will get the best from others.
if you learn to be grateful to others, you will have the ability to be happy.
form the habit of gratitude, and there will be a steady stream of love coming back.
Don't live so tired
in fact, you really don't have that many audiences
A lot of people always take themselves too seriously and overestimate their position in the hearts of others, so there are entanglements and troubles.
everyone is busy and doesn't have so much time to care about you.
put aside your concern for the eyes of others, lower your expectations for what others think, be yourself, and don't be so tired.
regularly cut off
to clean up your life and heart
as the saying goes, "those who care are tired, but those who don't care don't care."
subtract from life, the heart will be simple, and people will no longer suffer.
for example, if there are more favorites, delete some useless ones; there are a lot of things on the table for a long time.Throw away the useless things; you always pay for a relationship, but the other person doesn't know how to cherish it, so don't pay any more.
Don't feel that you have paid too much in the past and are reluctant to part, because it is all in the past. If you continue to pay, you will lose more energy and time.
only by letting go of the past and no longer entangled, can we be free and relaxed.
there are always two sides to things
look more at the positive side of things and find ways to solve them instead of complaining.
it is also half a glass of water. Some people will feel lucky and have half a glass of water to drink. Some people feel sorry for themselves and only have half a glass of water.
but we should look on the bright side of things and learn to live with optimism.
time is coming, living healthily, living calmly, smiling happily, and being busy properly, it's good.